Sounds like I missed something here but reading between the lines I think I get the gist.
Mate, you have always been a good active member of the forum, helped me out many times.
I can totally understand your frustration, picking holes in someones car is worse than insulting your kids. I have had it myself at car shows, what the people that critisize dont appreciate is the blood sweat and tears gone into a project.
I am fortunate enough to have some very good classics, I openly admit I throw money at things to get what I want. That doesnt mean I dont appreciate other peoples efforts though.
I attended a car show with a very prominent figure in Classic car circles recently. His collection is one of the best in the country, its next level up. Anyway, my favourite car at the show amoungst the Bentlys and Farraris was a VW Golf, the owner was 19 years old and couldnt even afford to insure it, his Grandad drove it to the show.! The car wasnt the best there, in fact it was the worst by far. The point is it was HIS car and it was obviouse he loved it..warts and all. I spoke to him for over an hour I ended up sending him some bits I had kicking around from my VW days. He was a great lad and like us a car nut.!
The point is, its not about the car its about what the car means to the owner.
Sometimes we all can be a bit critical, its easy done. I have been guilty myself Im sure.
Looking at your previous posts its obvious your a car nut too, we all are on here..we live and breath it. Its hardly supprising we get a bit ' iffy ' when someone doesnt like what you have done.
Put it down to experience.
Your a FORD fan and once its in your system it wont go away. I for one need all the advice I can get and hope you will continue to be an active member.