Im having a bit of a problem....

[Daggle]

As most of you know my job by now,

I am having a bit of a problem with work at the moment, here is the thing.....

 

I had to deal with a fatal accident on the M20 on Tuesday, it was really bad and things are starting to play on my mind, I haven't slept properly since Tuesday and just wanted to share my problem on here as a problem shared is a problem halved and all that...

 

I think that I have had one too many bad accidents to go to recently, I have had to deal with things that I don't like to have to do, ie picking up body parts, but no-one else is going to do it, so I have to....

 

Since Tuesday, when I go to sleep I keep having flashbacks to the accident and seeing the scene, I don't want to describe the things on here too much as its really not pleasant, I just wanted to have a chat with someone on here about it

[mk2_escort_chick]

I'm glad u feel that you can talk to us about stuff like that. We're like a family

As for advice or anything, I really dont know what to say. Hopefully it will go away, but this may take some time

 

But you know we're always here for you!

[Chris!]

As most of you know my job by now,

I am having a bit of a problem with work at the moment, here is the thing.....

 

I had to deal with a fatal accident on the M20 on Tuesday, it was really bad and things are starting to play on my mind, I haven't slept properly since Tuesday and just wanted to share my problem on here as a problem shared is a problem halved and all that...

 

I think that I have had one too many bad accidents to go to recently, I have had to deal with things that I don't like to have to do, ie picking up body parts, but no-one else is going to do it, so I have to....

 

Since Tuesday, when I go to sleep I keep having flashbacks to the accident and seeing the scene, I don't want to describe the things on here too much as its really not pleasant, I just wanted to have a chat with someone on here about it

 

doesnt sound good

[Daggle]

Yeh its just nice to get things off my chest, I had a chat with the missus, but she wasn't too good when I get to telling her the details, she did turn a bit pale, so I just wanted to let rip on here

[Chris!]

Yeh its just nice to get things off my chest, I had a chat with the missus, but she wasn't too good when I get to telling her the details, she did turn a bit pale, so I just wanted to let rip on here

just lye in bed and think about your anglebox and you will dream about it alll night

[Daggle]

Yeh that's giving me nightmares as well , just with the amount of money going on it though

[Mk2Jo]

Mate, I can sympathise with you .... my mate is a Fireman and has had to deal with lots of fatal incidents and remove unrecognisable bodies from vehicles and the stories are horrific.

 

I really think you should go and see someone professional who will know how to deal with this type of thing .... I know the fire brigade have someone they can go and see to chat about it and I'm sure that the police force have a similar set up.

 

By all means, chat to us here, but I would urge you to see someone who knows how to deal with this kind of stuff and do it soon before if really affects your home life and those that you love around you

[Daggle]

Yeh, I have got an appointment with welfare and counselling at work, but I have to wait a few days. As a Family Liason Officer, we have to have these 'chats' quite regularly, just think Im overdue my unloading session.

[Mk2Jo]

Yeh, I have got an appointment with welfare and counselling at work, but I have to wait a few days. As a Family Liason Officer, we have to have these 'chats' quite regularly, just think Im overdue my unloading session.

 

 

Don't be talking about unloading on here mate ... I may have to move you to the adult room

 

Seriously though, good luck with it and well done for getting it off your chest and not bottling it all up

[Daggle]

, yep im off for an unload and download right now

[Twinkle]

m8 call me if you want to talk about stuff or have a chat over a brew or a beer

 

we use dover counselling service and they are brilliant, will find the number if you want it fella

[Daggle]

m8 call me if you want to talk about stuff or have a chat over a brew or a beer

 

we use dover counselling service and they are brilliant, will find the number if you want it fella

 

Cheers mate, I will be using work, just had a bad one on the M20, dunno if you heard about it??

[Twinkle]

am off at the mo so not heard about it yet

[4parajon]

Daggle-you have pm mate

[Daggle]

am off at the mo so not heard about it yet

 

You have Pm

[Daggle]

Daggle-you have pm mate

 

Nothing so far??

[105Nick]

Good luck mate, you do a great job and have so much respect for you.

I'd love to put something back in the community in that way but I'm squeamish so I'd be sh!t My gfs dad was watching traffic cops the other night and I kept thinking of you.

 

I don't think I can say anyone here's qualified to know what you're going through, but we'll always give moral support you do a sterling job and I thank you loads. Good luck with the unloading mate

[flyingbanana]

sounds like u need a wee holiday....hope it get better for you....im sure picking up body parts is not fun...i suppose it helps if that sort of things dont bother you.....

[Twinkle]

sounds like u need a wee holiday....hope it get better for you....im sure picking up body parts is not fun...i suppose it helps if that sort of things dont bother you.....

 

m8 even those who say or dont show that it bothers them it does get to them in one way or another

 

am off at the mo so not heard about it yet

 

You have Pm

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[RFChris]

Mate!

 

While i'm not in your line of work i have seen two people get killed. Both on the road. I know exactly where you're coming from. You're already in a better position in that you have built up a "tollerence" if you will, to dealing this sort of thing. But i'm sure that every incident still hits you as hard as the first did. You have the best people, professionally, at your disposal to help you through it. The only medicine is to talk and try and get past it.

 

I'll be an ear if you need one mate.

 

At the end of the day i'm glad that there is someone enforcing our roads who takes a bad situation this hard. If you could just dismiss it i'd have no time for you. The fact that you take it like this sows that you care....and because of that it makes you a damn fine Copper.

 

Chin up mate, and drop me PM if you want to.

[louie bagel]

i can understand where you are coming from i spent 6years in 24hr recovery clearing up the accedents and storing the vehicles, then having to take family members around the vehicles

 

and it does really affect you, i used to get quite upset thinking about it and worrying that this kind of thing could happen to my family and friends, unfortunatly it did happen to two friends on two seperate occations.

and i used to also feel sorry for the officers who had the task of breaking the news to familes.

 

again like many others on here i would also like to offer an ear if will help any.

louie...

[Mr.Sumo]

m8 , i feel for you

 

I"m still getting flashbacks from the fatal i was involved in 2 years ago....sometimes i can be driving the truck on a normal road , in good weather etc ...and BANG ! ..... I SEE THAT FELLA 4 FOOT IN FRONT OF ME AGAIN.......theres nothing there , but i still slam the brakes on......it ain"t pretty , and it sh*ts the life out of me ......but , without wishing to sound soft in the head , with the help of my missus and the odd trip to the docs i am just about over it .

 

I hope you get the help you need m8 , talking to someone who is willing to just listen is 90% of the problem sorted....i wish you luck , and keep up the good work

[Wessie]

i feel for you daggle, it must be hard doing your job and i hate to think fo some of the stuff you have to witness, anyway i hope you get to talk to someone bout it keep up the good work

 

 

 

and on a less serious note

 

 

 

 

 

 

my dad got a speeding letter through today (74 in a 50), and hes already got 10 points ! if you know any tricks of the trade pm me

[RFChris]

my dad got a speeding letter through today (74 in a 50), and hes already got 10 points ! if you know any tricks of the trade pm me

 

PMSL :lol: Only you could get away with that in this thread Wessie.

[Burns]

that's shitty dude, it really is i don't know if i could deal with that stuff as well as you must have to there's lots of people on here who i'm sure would chat with you about it (some who have gone through similar things) and if you want to drop me a pm the button's just down there.

 

hope you can get over it soon