is my boy normal

[lee_capri]

have a teenage son who is seventeen in april,well this is my problum

 

he never go's out at all,he is lasey beyound belife, the only thing he has done since leaving school is get him self sorted to join the army,talk about billy no mate's

 

when i was his age i was out all the time haveing a good time chaseing the bird's getting chassed by the plod and doing some work to get some money,mind you i was a wright towrag

 

but he dos'nt do any-thing unless i tell him to

[Savvi]

Could be worse mate ............. he could be out stabbing people or worse still getting stabbed !!!

 

My apprentice is similar only he's always texting.

We have just moved workshops and he's been staying helping me til 10pm without any moaning,he even offered most nights, yet he does nothing for his old man whose my mate, he can't belive its the same person sometimes !!

 

Could be he's living in your shadow ? From some of your post's you certainly get things done !!!

 

No offence mean't ..lol

[lee_capri]

that's below the belt matey got my di fitted my cappa is nearly done even if i hav'nt put any-pic's up soon to start the mk1 cappa and ive got to go back to work on monday

 

just because i cant cook and make drink's im a man i cant help it

[ilovegrannys]

The Army will sort him out

[lee_capri]

he's in for a big shock i think june the 23rd,yes sir no sir three bag's full sir,i think it will be good for him,just wish he would do something in the mean time if you no what i mean

[Smudger105e]

No, it's not a problem him not having loads of mates or not going out much, it what some kids do. He will grow up quickly once he's in the forces, and he will have a ready made group of friends too.

 

I feel that we often expect our children to have the same standards and outlook on life as we do, and they are their own people, not carbon copies of us, and neither should they be!

[oldbus]

I wouldn´t worry about it mate, we all have phases and teenagers seem to just have one big one (well based on my two)

 

I try and get my two involved with the old cars, my youngest is quite interested and has bought (from his own money) a MKIII Cortina so i don´t have any worries about him, my eldest however would rathe rspend his time on the computer than in the garage.

 

Each to his own, but i think the problem will sort itself out in a couple of months...it certainly worked for me!

 

How about getting him his first car and getting him involved that way?

[bortaf]

It's when they get to 22 like my eldest and have never had a job and have spent the last 2 1/2 yeras "looking for a job" (and not had 1 interveiw) that you need to worry mate

now mine IS a lazy foocker

[bmxdave]

Dont worry. I only have a couple of friends, but thats because i dont see the point in having loads. Ive got about 4 or 5 good friends and thats it. Ive known them for years, and i dont need anymore. Im sure he has a couple just the same. Like me, he may know loads of people, he just consider them friends as such, if you know what i mean. Acquintences for a better word.

 

As for the lazyness, where all like that. I got a job, 7.30 till 4 everyday, as a bus mechanic. Im still a lazy f@cker. Nothing wrong in that, i dont think. If hes genuinely interested in the army, itll definately sort him out.

 

My younger brother is in a similar situation. 18 in september and hes spent 2 years 'looking' for a job. I keep telling him to sign up but he wont, hed rather just get stoned or pissed. Hell grow out of it sooner or later. After he realises the value of money and that he cant live at home forever, and ive given him a few bloody good beatings

[RicardoR]

have a teenage son who is seventeen in april,well this is my problum

 

he never go's out at all,he is lasey beyound belife, the only thing he has done since leaving school is get him self sorted to join the army,talk about billy no mate's

 

when i was his age i was out all the time haveing a good time chaseing the bird's getting chassed by the plod and doing some work to get some money,mind you i was a wright towrag

 

but he dos'nt do any-thing unless i tell him to

 

Well what would you rather have? Him acting like he is now or going round and causing havoc and getting himself (and possibily you) into trouble with the police? I'm going through that stage, although I have been going through this a lot, I'm shy and I used to live in Spain for 4 years (not being confident in speaking the language) I hardly ever went out (only for school).

 

Even in the UK I dont go out much because I cant be bothered with all the hassel of what most teenage lads do on a Friday night, I would rather get a job, work, get a nice girlfriend and a capri ! . Just give him time and let him do what he wants to do, as long as he is not harming anyone else in the meantime.

[Mk2Jo]

that's below the belt matey

 

Lee, lynx2us meant that because you are always busy and you do get things done then maybe your son feels that he can't be as good as you (he wasn't criticising you ).

 

As for him not going out ..... I guess that's his choice ... we are all different, I was the same as you ... never at home As for being lazy .... you need to give him some responsibilities or jobs around the house

[NginEEr]

I have a few mates and hardly go out as the computer is too addictive i can sit and talk on here all night. Or if i do go out its to college or in the garage working on my car.ANd im always texting too .My dad was even stressing to me the same lee.

[lee_capri]

idid'nt take it has one jo

 

but im right about my boy when we put the di in the ice cream van did'nt see him all day till about 3.00pm when he brough a cupper over,he just want's to watch telly or play the ps3,ive tryed to get him to do stuff but how do you motavite some one who no go unless it's something they want to do.

 

i told him most people dont like going to work i dont but you need to do these thing's to get along in life.

 

just hope that the army thing work's out has it would do him good and he will get a trade

[lee_capri]

It's when they get to 22 like my eldest and have never had a job and have spent the last 2 1/2 yeras "looking for a job" (and not had 1 interveiw) that you need to worry mate

now mine IS a lazy foocker

 

i no what your saying here i grew up in the golden age of the 80's did'nt have to work,dune many thing's some i cant put on here if you no what i mean,did'nt get my first proper job till 5yr ago and im now 37 so i spean 16yr's of my life f**king around and haveing a good time but was i.

 

e.g

 

my brotherinlaw is the same age has me has worked from day one he has a nice new house worth twice has much has mine,he go's on holiday when he want's,has pension plan's ect ect

 

i no it sound's mertial thing's but ive leant what you do today will afect what the out come is later in life,dont get me wroung im not geloueis of him,but i could have got so much more out of life in genral if id put more effort it to it.

 

i no you all see me on here with this car that car but i have alway's had the gift of the gab to have a deal,i can sell almost everthing for profit has been a dealer all my life.

 

so that make's me a gambler which is the way iam in for a penny or a pound,

 

at the end of the day it's a few month's till he go's in the army he should be doing something to get some money in his pocket keep saying he want's a car but why should i part with my cash when he cant bebothed to take a step in the right direction to help him self

[peterbilt]

It will all change when he gets in the army

[sab6024]

My brother is 27 and he's a lazy bugger Bet he's at home in bed now. He's gotta get his Capper sorted for the road this week He doesn't go out much either He does work though so he's not completely bone idle

[mossy]

im only 21...got a few different circles of mates. Never in, as mother moans too much about washing or making the bed. Am i lazy...damn straight am i

nearly always drunk, messing about in town pulling the lasses, Farting about in the car with the lads.

 

But a few of my mates dont go out at all, do the washing up and ironing for their parents....Doesnt make them any different.

[zetecmk2]

It's when they get to 22 like my eldest and have never had a job and have spent the last 2 1/2 yeras "looking for a job" (and not had 1 interveiw) that you need to worry mate

now mine IS a lazy foocker

 

i no what your saying here i grew up in the golden age of the 80's did'nt have to work,dune many thing's some i cant put on here if you no what i mean,did'nt get my first proper job till 5yr ago and im now 37 so i spean 16yr's of my life f**king around and haveing a good time but was i.

 

e.g

 

my brotherinlaw is the same age has me has worked from day one he has a nice new house worth twice has much has mine,he go's on holiday when he want's,has pension plan's ect ect

 

i no it sound's mertial thing's but ive leant what you do today will afect what the out come is later in life,dont get me wroung im not geloueis of him,but i could have got so much more out of life in genral if id put more effort it to it.

 

i no you all see me on here with this car that car but i have alway's had the gift of the gab to have a deal,i can sell almost everthing for profit has been a dealer all my life.

 

so that make's me a gambler which is the way iam in for a penny or a pound,

 

at the end of the day it's a few month's till he go's in the army he should be doing something to get some money in his pocket keep saying he want's a car but why should i part with my cash when he cant bebothed to take a step in the right direction to help him self

god, you sound like me! 3 million unemployed was a great excuse not to work, i bummed around for years, was only intrested in bikes and music, was in bands and toured the world. all the people i hung about with were the same, so it seemed "normal". about 7 yrs ago i got into cars and bullshitted my way into a bodyshop as a strip/fitter. purely because of the use of the bodyshop. flamiliarity breeds comtempt.now im in charge of 6 people and quality controller! clean hands ha ha! i couldnt go back to being unemployed, i dont own a house but wish i did. but to of had a morgage would have meant no bands, no traveling,

"10 yrs of chaos, 10 yrs mayhem!

if i had another chance, i'd do it all again"

lyrics if the new album.

i wouldnt worry about teenagers, or 20somethings, wisdom kicks in later in life! id love to be 20 yrs into my mortgage, but my brother who is says he would swap my life for his! as long as you end up happy. make sure you support him in this. skint and happy vs rich and depressed?