why does death always hit you in a different way?

[Messenjah]

well i got in from work tonight and my dad said "did you get my message" as soon as he said it i said to him who has died and he told me my rugby coach and friend died this morning and it hit me like a train but when my grandma died liast year it never really hit me ..

 

but this has really hit me hard and im not ashamed to say reduced me to tears. the last thing he said to me was with you playing like that i want to see you int he first team next season and nomatter what i will get myself fit enough to play first team rugby and im not just going to do it for me im gonna do it for paul. im really upset , quite drunk and just needed to tell someone so i thought id tell lots of people all at the same time !

[louie bagel]

sad for you andrew

[Smudger105e]

Death does indeed hit different people in different ways and also depends who has died. I was not that upset when my father-in-law died, buit when one of my work mates died it tore me to bits, especially at the funeral.

 

Chin up, and do it for him [/i]

[marky4]

hope you make the 1st team mate for you and him

[Col-ashtonmobile]

get in that 1st team now for him

[Mrs O/H/C]

[MK2Ed]

You are so right mate...

 

Break that first team man...

[antz]

death hits us all different

[mossy]

the death of my grandad was horrible....but didnt affect me as i thought it would...He was 92 with parkinsons and alzheimers and didnt know who he was, or what to do.... He had had his life and enjoyed it.

 

But when my best friend died..who wasnt even 21. I didnt leave my room for 3days and i was a complete heap.

 

Everyone deals differently its just how and who we are.

[over_head_cam]

All my grandparents are dead now and I suppose you learn to expect and accept it when people get old. 25 odd years ago a friend of mine was killed when she was only 17, it really got to me for a year or so, and sometimes I still have a little thought in my head that reminds me. I think if somone goes before their time it has much more of an effect on us.

[Trevmk3]

i know what you mean mate, when my dad died 5 years ago he had been suffering with cancer so i think it was easier to accept that he wasnt in pain anymore, it was hard but these things make you stronger in the end, i know it has for me. in the space of 1 year i had my dad, nan, auntie, and 4 friends die and as horrible as it sound i think that i got used to it.

 

keep yiour head up and aim for the first team and beyond

[steve dray]

Here goes the long story............. My mum and dad both died on the same day in 2003, but not together if you see what I mean? My mum had cancer and I got a call in the early hours to say you better come over, so I phoned my dad and told him the news and that I would come and pick him up. I went and picked him up, but he was in such a state that he had a heart attack and died outside his house in my arms, while dealing with that, my mum finally past away just two hours later. Back to the point, in many ways my mums death was a relief as she was no longer suffering, but my dads death was a big shock and still is.... to make things worse, my beautiful daughter Emmy was born just one week later, they never got to meet her, but both mum and dad live on in her.... (sorry if that's sad but it's good to share these things), so chin up Andrew and make that first team for your coach. Thinkin of ya m8