.pete. Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 Who has done it? There might be a promotion at work if all goes well, but means moving from my home town to the other side of the country. I'm OK with the idea as it would be about double my current wages for doing a similar job, as I currently do most of the managers jobs already, to being a manager of a similar store. The only problems are the wife and kids. The kids are 3 and 6 so I would think a change in school might be a bit of a problem, but it's not as though they are doing exams or have known any of their friends for many years, the main problem is the wife. She has a lot of friends where we are, and her parents are close, so she has said it's not going to happen.
D-FENS Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 Me and my wife have got two sons now aged 21 and 19 both still at home .Our biggest regret is not moving before they reached junior school.Young children of 3 and 6 can fit in and make friends easily so just dump the wife and you and the kids move
Admin Vista Posted February 8, 2011 Admin Report Posted February 8, 2011 If it means a better standard of living and better prospects then go for it. We may be relocating to Germany (though it's been on and off for several years now) my wife is in much the same boat as yours but recognises what's to be gained from it so is behind me. Friendships that are worth having survive a bit of distance. Those that don't, aren't.
.pete. Posted February 8, 2011 Author Report Posted February 8, 2011 by the way it's Yate. Does anyone know anything about there? It's only a 3 hour drive so not the other end of the world.
Mrs O/H/C Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 We relocated from Croydon to Cornwall..and it was all my idea. You only have 1 life,the kids are young enough so give it a try. Friends will always be friends no matter what the distance is
GJUK Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 She has a lot of friends where we are, and her parents are close, so she has said it's not going to happen. Put your foot down and tell her you're moving! Mind you at 69 years of age its quite old to be doing such a huge move. shouldnt you be in retirement?
.pete. Posted February 8, 2011 Author Report Posted February 8, 2011 Mind you at 69 years of age its quite old to be doing such a huge move. shouldnt you be in retirement? I suppose. That's my Dads age if he was still about. I'm 34 and think it's a chance to get on in life. Don't get me wrong, i'm content in plodding along like most people. i've got a decent job, average wage, mortgage, wife, kids, etc, but sometimes something comes up which is a bit of a gamble and risk but could improve what i've got.
banarama Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 Mind you at 69 years of age its quite old to be doing such a huge move. shouldnt you be in retirement? I suppose. That's my Dads age if he was still about. I'm 34 and think it's a chance to get on in life. Don't get me wrong, i'm content in plodding along like most people. i've got a decent job, average wage, mortgage, wife, kids, etc, but sometimes something comes up which is a bit of a gamble and risk but could improve what i've got. yate in bristol
.pete. Posted February 8, 2011 Author Report Posted February 8, 2011 yate in bristol Yep, what have you heard?
banarama Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 yate in bristol Yep, what have you heard? nothing bad pete,ive been there looks quite a nice place,ive been nearly every where in the uk ,as i do courier work.but i guess its like anywhere really good parts/bad parts.its what you make of it really. i want to move to cornwall.but i have same problem as you
GJUK Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 Mind you at 69 years of age its quite old to be doing such a huge move. shouldnt you be in retirement? I suppose. That's my Dads age if he was still about. I'm 34 and think it's a chance to get on in life. Don't get me wrong, i'm content in plodding along like most people. i've got a decent job, average wage, mortgage, wife, kids, etc, but sometimes something comes up which is a bit of a gamble and risk but could improve what i've got. You only live once...
banarama Posted February 8, 2011 Report Posted February 8, 2011 Mind you at 69 years of age its quite old to be doing such a huge move. shouldnt you be in retirement? I suppose. That's my Dads age if he was still about. I'm 34 and think it's a chance to get on in life. Don't get me wrong, i'm content in plodding along like most people. i've got a decent job, average wage, mortgage, wife, kids, etc, but sometimes something comes up which is a bit of a gamble and risk but could improve what i've got. You only live once... not unless your last name is bond.
radar tech Posted February 9, 2011 Report Posted February 9, 2011 Im in the RAF and after 19 years service i am in house number 15 now
Smudger105e Posted February 9, 2011 Report Posted February 9, 2011 Moved from Brighton to Derby 15 years ago, never regretted it at all. My wife has probably more friends here now than she had 'down south' and time with family when we go back is mare quality. I say pursuade your wife to move if you can, I understand her reservations, but it's not really bad at all.
deltamal Posted February 9, 2011 Report Posted February 9, 2011 I made the move 30 years ago, Swindon to Plymouth, new friends, super place to live and and got my own business, good move! but it did take a lot of thinking about......
Admin Mk2Jo Posted February 9, 2011 Admin Report Posted February 9, 2011 If your wife says no then she will make your life hell and blame EVERYTHING on you when you move there You will need to work on her and get her to agree it without any comebacks otherwise it won't work
.pete. Posted February 11, 2011 Author Report Posted February 11, 2011 Hi, its 'the wife', i knew pete had started this thread & thought i'd have a read. What he neglected to say was that we've had a few marital problems over the last 6mths or so, and I'm struggling with depression. When everything else had gone to sh*t, my friends & family were here for me & I really don't know what I would have done without them. I am finally settling down now, actually feeling happier than i ever have in years ... and then this job comes up ... Its not that i don't WANT more money ... or that i don't WANT pete to be happy ... but i know that i can't handle a huge move, I don't want to be lonely and depressed again, and I don't want to have to start again. The saying 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it' comes to mind. There's an awful lot more to the story really, and i think the risk of me losing it again is too great ... its only money & a 'manager' label at the end of the day. Sorry pete, love you xXx
Admin Mk2Jo Posted February 11, 2011 Admin Report Posted February 11, 2011 Hi, its 'the wife', i knew pete had started this thread & thought i'd have a read. What he neglected to say was that we've had a few marital problems over the last 6mths or so, and I'm struggling with depression. When everything else had gone to sh*t, my friends & family were here for me & I really don't know what I would have done without them. I am finally settling down now, actually feeling happier than i ever have in years ... and then this job comes up ... Its not that i don't WANT more money ... or that i don't WANT pete to be happy ... but i know that i can't handle a huge move, I don't want to be lonely and depressed again, and I don't want to have to start again. The saying 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it' comes to mind. There's an awful lot more to the story really, and i think the risk of me losing it again is too great ... its only money & a 'manager' label at the end of the day. Sorry pete, love you xXx Well said "the wife". Like I said above, if you move against your will then you will be unhappy and you will blame everything on him because it was him that wanted to relocate and not you. I know, I am a female and that is what I would do if I was forced to relocate just to make him happy There is more to life than money and if your happiness is at stake then you have to ask yourselves, is it really worth the risk?
.pete. Posted February 11, 2011 Author Report Posted February 11, 2011 Hi, its the wife again lol. Wow, i didn't realise there were girls on here Thanks for that. I text pete this morning & told him i'm getting really upset about the situation, and told him i'd posted on here. He said ok, he'll tell them he's not interested. I feel awful, because this job IS perfect. But it has come at totally the wrong time. I love pete so much, and i want him to be happy. I'll do my very best to make it up to him, I've put him through a lot and I hope he won't resent me for this. ... i've been out & bought some new suspenders today, shhhhh, don't tell him 'The wife' xXx
Mrs O/H/C Posted February 11, 2011 Report Posted February 11, 2011 You have to do whats "right" for you both and if the time is not right then maybe a year or two down the line it might be. Good luck in staying "well" (Im sure he will love the honesty that you have displayed)
.pete. Posted February 11, 2011 Author Report Posted February 11, 2011 'The wife' again thanks for that. The only problem with this job, its really a 'now or never' situation. I am doing my best to be honest with Pete, and the truth hurts, as everybody knows. I'm looking forward to seeing him later, and I'll be interested in what he thinks of what has been said here today. I'm curious as to why no men have responded as yet lol ... I'm fully expecting another 'typical doris' at some point ... xXx
Jiffer Posted February 11, 2011 Report Posted February 11, 2011 Response from the men I've meet pete a few times and never realised he was into the kinky stuff
.pete. Posted February 11, 2011 Author Report Posted February 11, 2011 Hee hee ... well, most people are aren't they? But their wives don't usually go on their forums & tell everyone 'The Wife' xXx
Mrs O/H/C Posted February 11, 2011 Report Posted February 11, 2011 There might be othe jobs in the future or you just both fancy a "change" OR you both might stay put....the important thing is to feel "safe and happy" Have a great weekend both of you
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