Is it possible...

[RFChris]

...to have a mid twenties crisis? You see, i think i'm having one.

 

I have a brilliant family, but in a professional context i have to do something drastic. Its all a bit dull now, and i'm sensing a "dead end" vibe too (with my main job, not CF) .

 

I want to move house too.....bored of this one!

 

Oh what to do, the sensible side says i should stick at it as i have to pay the bills, the not so sensible side is saying that i'll end up being 50 and constantly thinking "what if...."

 

Damn these deep and meaningfuls.....HELP!

 

Chris

[sambo]

Ditto mate! Glad im not the only one. But i do have a cunning plan......

[Vista]

I'm a firm believer that if you aren't happy with your lot job wise then it's time to move on.

 

It's easy to just get up and go to work doing something we don't really enjoy, and most of us (myself included in one of my previous jobs) keep doing it because we fear leaving and facing the unknown. Truth is if you're already unhappy then surely the unknown can only be an improvement?

 

I changed my whole life about 6 years ago by leaving a job that was totally secure. I took me ages to pluck up the courage to do it, but I've never looked back and certainly never regretted it. Plan it carefully and you'll be laughing mate.

[antz]

im worried about the future

 

im only 18 but i know one day ill need a house

 

 

good luck whatever you decide chris!

[Wessie]

chris i know your problem youre suffering an OSF withdrawl symptom

 

 

seriously m8 i hope everything works out good and my capper might be for sale if your BLOODY good @ welding

[atomic punk]

...to have a mid twenties crisis? You see, i think i'm having one.

 

I have a brilliant family, but in a professional context i have to do something drastic. Its all a bit dull now, and i'm sensing a "dead end" vibe too (with my main job, not CF) .

 

I want to move house too.....bored of this one!

 

Oh what to do, the sensible side says i should stick at it as i have to pay the bills, the not so sensible side is saying that i'll end up being 50 and constantly thinking "what if...."

 

Been there, done that......be on to an early thirties crisis soon If youre bored of the house then get some cheap paint & redecorate.... thats what my old dears do when they get bored

 

If youre jobs getting you down then deffo time to move on, but line up something secure before throwing in the towel on your old job

[Twinkle]

get drunk man

[over_head_cam]

Smash yourself in the face Chris and that will wake you up a bit

 

Then go with what you feel, but never lose sight of your responsibilities. Make sure you are making the right choice for for you AND your new family. Whatever you decide mate, I'm sure it will work out for you

[Wessie]

nice advice phil

[RFChris]

Silver fox has sound advice! I'll buy you a brew at the Ace mate!

 

And Vista, i'll buy you a brew at the meet in a fortnight.

[Slik 50]

I have felt like that many a time!

 

My first son was born when I was 20, I was with a doris that I loved dearly and knew I had to step up to the plate and start being a man.

I honestly thought I was stuck in a dead end job working with my dad earining 300 quid a week. I had no driving licence as I always thought that I couldnt afford a car because that 300 quid could bearly get me through the weekend! what with going out and blitzing loads on the p*ss every friday and saturday night!

 

So we stared renting a house. It had no central heating or double glazing and was rotten every where!

 

So then came the decision to buy a house. We could not find a great deal with the money we were offerd for a mortgauge. So we went out and got a huge loan to pay for a bigger deposit on a better house.

The intrest rate went up and we couldnt afford to pay the mortgauge and the loan nevermind the utilaties.

We ended up in a shed load of dept and not a pot to p*ss in. We had the mortgauge company threatning to reposes, electric and gas firms threatning to cut us off, court apperences for not paying bills, We hadnt payed the T.V. licence in 3 years!

 

Then to top it of I was self employed and out of work and my wife just gave birth to our second son. Things could not be any worse for us

 

We decided to change everything and make a new start as we had nothing to loose

 

I started working at the local breakers. The pay wasnt fantastic but it was regular. Then after a sob story to the mortgauge company and a bit of grace on there part we sold the house!

We was very fortunate that the profit we made from the sale of the house payed every bit of dept off and placed a big deposit down on our new house in a diffrent town.

The fresh start was what we needed, As both of us were very young parents everything came as a total shock to us and we made some bad mistakes. But now we are dept free, have a bunch of new freinds, Still enjoying my job, my wife has started studying at universaty for her degree in socal work ( somthing she has always longed to do)

Im driving a 24 yr old ford and things are just great

 

But like vista said, Somtimes you have to bite the bullet and venture into the unknown. Take the chaces now while you can. Things may go all wrong but you will always have your family (and us) who will always be there fore you!

You are still young enough to recover from the crap.

 

 

Chris mate,

Im in a dead end job now, I aint going to be a millionare. I'm never going to run the firm, My wage is pretty crap. But I just exept the fact and get on with it.

 

Chin up mate, things will work out