Need advice about a girlfriend....

[RicardoR]

Right well this message is true and I really need everyones advice, its not meant in any harm and if I offend someone then sorry, dont intend to. I understand if you dont want to read all this .

 

It's a long story and seeing as no one here knows me or her then I can tell you. I'm 16 and shes 15 and we live about 30 minutes away (although we both go to the same town). It started out as me going out with a girl called Jess, we went out for about 4 weeks, when I started going out with her I met one of her best friends called Chloe, as the weeks went on Chloe and I got on really well and I felt warm when I talk to her or see her, so I was left with the decision of dumping Jess and going out with Chloe. Chloe lost Jess as a friend as a result of this and Chloe stopped being friends with me because of this, after a day she came back to me and we decided to be friends and bf and gf secretly without any of her other friends knowing. After about 2 weeks she started to feel guilty and decided to dump me and stop being friends with me again, some of her friends found out and another best friend called Leanne stopped being friends with her as well. After 2 days Chloe started talking to me again and told me how she felt, she wrote a letter (after me writing her a letter) about how we felt towards each other, the result was good and we loved each other a lot. We've been boyfriend and girlfriend for about 3 weeks now and she has lot another friend (3 in total) because of her going out with me.

The rest of her friends dont like me, dont trust me and do their best to stop her from seeing me and try to split us up, even though shes happy (or was) with me and I'm happy with her, just selfish friends.

 

A few weeks ago she hardly ever stopped calling me and talking about seeing me again, I then started to phone her more because her dad took her free calls away because she was overdrawn on it and I had free calls, I used to call her about 3/4 times a day because she couldnt go on MSN much due to her brother being on the computer a lot. About 4 days ago she came on MSN and told me that she, her mother and friends thought I was being too over protective, distrusting her and taking her away from her friends because of me calling her and worrying about her etc.

Ever since then she has changed, she hardly talks to me if she doesnt have to, I'm moving away tomorrow (Wedesnday) and shes known this for about a week and she says she doesnt have the money (and her dad say the same) to come to the town and see me, but she goes to her friends house who lives 30 minutes FURTHER than the town is (she cant even be bothered to see me yet she can see her friend and stay at her house).

 

She says shes worried and that she doesnt know what to do about the fact that I am moving down south because I will change, forget about her and find someone else, I have told her many times that this will not happen (I love her dearly and I wont leave her) and she says we can hardly see each other (although I have told her many times I will come up and see her once a week for 3 or 4 months). Surely if she really did love me, she would be satisfied with the phone and MSN and just ride this hitch until the end... Shes also on her period and at the moment I feel like my head is in an ever tightening vice, she complains when I'm too pushy or offish and complains when I'm too mushy.. perhas thats her period talking, I dont know.

 

She isnt a strong person and she will do what her friends say, she puts her friends infront of me, I tried to see her on Monday for a day before I left and she said she didnt want me to come because her friend will probably come to her house and we'll argue... the fact that her friends can see her any day of the week and I just wanted to spend 1 day with her before I left... she could of told her friend to come back later if she really did love me.

 

I'm wondering if anyone can give me advice, like should I just try to wait this out, is this normal? what? Thanks..

[X-pack-Glyn]

You confused? i lost track after the first paragraph mate!!!

 

BUT, i notice you mentian at least 3 girls names so go for em all i say

[Stu_B]

too much to rid.. but I get the jist you're going into a long distance relationship?

I've had 2 relationships where the girl's moved away.. both ended! Sayng that they went on for a long time long distance & they may have ended anyway... it does put pressure on things though /7 you have to have absolute trust

[Messenjah]

m8 ure sixteen u will move on and so will she its the way of the world !

[RicardoR]

m8 ure sixteen u will move on and so will she its the way of the world !

 

Aye I know, but like you said, I'm 16, at 16 we think adults dont know anything and we will never move on from it (I know I will but ... its hard and I'm trying to avoid it if I can).

[Vista]

BUT, i notice you mentian at least 3 girls names so go for em all i say

 

You took the words right outa my mouth!

 

I also lost track of who was friends with who, who broke up with who and who was not friends with who within about three lines.

 

So here's what I'd do (speaking from a position of age and wisdom and knowing that I went through all those same sorts of dilemmas when I was your age) If I could do it again (my teenage years) I wouldn't fall in love with anyone and I would sleep with as many fit birds as I possibly could because trust me, you'll never get the chance to fool around without heartbreak and demands for COMMITMENT ever again.

 

Drop this whole sorry story like a hot potato, sow your wild oats around as many of her friends as you can and then move down south and say goodbye to the whole episode.

[Stu_B]

1 bit of advice.. sleep with any many girls/women as you can!! Don't be a player, don't break hearts... just get laid..LOTS!!!

[louie bagel]

sounds best to move on matey seams to me thats what she's doing anyway the pair of you are only about 5 minutes old loads of fun and mistakes to make yet , so leave her alone, stop calling if she really feels something for you she will contact you if not then it wasn't worth much anyway just a small crush maybee, of course i hope she will really miss you and come running into your arms like on all the good chick fliks ,

 

hope i haven't depressed you bud

 

and look on the bright side if you dont know what to do with your life you could be a movie writer cos that story was a winner

[Chris!]

so the answer is go get laid

[RicardoR]

sounds best to move on matey seams to me thats what she's doing anyway the pair of you are only about 5 minutes old loads of fun and mistakes to make yet , so leave her alone, stop calling if she really feels something for you she will contact you if not then it wasn't worth much anyway just a small crush maybee, of course i hope she will really miss you and come running into your arms like on all the good chick fliks ,

 

hope i haven't depressed you bud

 

and look on the bright side if you dont know what to do with your life you could be a movie writer cos that story was a winner

 

Haha thanks. No well I'm going to live out one of my dreams and buy a Capri so that is something to look forward to . Just got to the stage where I needed advice off everyone because I didnt know if it was normal for girls to go through this at 15 or not.

[X-pack-Glyn]

BUT, i notice you mentian at least 3 girls names so go for em all i say

 

You took the words right outa my mouth!

 

I also lost track of who was friends with who, who broke up with who and who was not friends with who within about three lines.

 

So here's what I'd do (speaking from a position of age and wisdom and knowing that I went through all those same sorts of dilemmas when I was your age) If I could do it again (my teenage years) I wouldn't fall in love with anyone and I would sleep with as many fit birds as I possibly could because trust me, you'll never get the chance to fool around without heartbreak and demands for COMMITMENT ever again.

 

Drop this whole sorry story like a hot potato, sow your wild oats around as many of her friends as you can and then move down south and say goodbye to the whole episode.

 

Finaly we agree on something Vista... Type 9's are still crap tho

[Stu_B]

If I could do it again (my teenage years) I wouldn't fall in love with anyone and I would sleep with as many fit birds as I possibly could because trust me, you'll never get the chance to fool around without heartbreak and demands for COMMITMENT

 

Exactly... and I'm 25

[X-pack-Glyn]

Kinda reminds me of a school trip i went on at 15. i went to a mixed school, you know, boys......and girls...

 

well one evening in the dorm my mates thought it would be a great idea to lock me in the dorms with about 9 girls a year older all well up for it,well i shit meself didnt i, leapt out if a fookin window with me tee shirt ripped orf now, well NOW id give me right arm to be in the same possition again... wasted wasted days.

[Doc]

Get them all pumped mate

 

Call them all a single nick name so you never let a name slip out

 

take them all on the same date so you dont talk about the other girls date

 

 

Bingo Bango your a 16 year old player

 

Seriously mate just enjoy it there a billion girls out there and a long time to find the right one ......... Nothing is a serious as you think it is

[bmxdave]

16 is too young to be talking about love, long term relationships and commitment. You should be chasing as many as possible as much as possible. I did myself and then gave up because it was effort and im lazy. Now i regret not doing it more. If your lazy like me then long term is better but while your young get in there and get some.

 

Start afresh in your new area.

 

Oh, and a little note, if a girl ever says shes on the blob, make a mental note. Youll soon find theyre on about 6 or 7 times a month. Its their excuse for everything.

 

Im sure im about to get a good flogging from one of the ladies for that comment, but secretly, they know its true aswell.

[mk1super]

I'll give you my thoughts bud

 

If it has Tits or tires it will cost you money,be hard work hurt you both mind and body and break your heart lots.

 

It seems she has had her mind made up,and you have the distance thing too, the fact her folks and mates are in on it well your gonna be hard pushed to win mate trust me bad enough when its just 1 but both! Been there myself " My daughters not goin out with no biker!" none of her mates liked me either. In the end i just walked away ( Well rode ) . You end up that pissed off and down you just think its not worth the bother.

 

End of the day what ever i say you will do your own thing but i think you already know yourself that your fighting a battle your gonna lose.

 

Your 16 starting out in what i hope is a long happy healthy life for you mate,dont make your life complicated enjoy being young and getting a set of wheels making mates the parties the pubs clubs and the many more girls you will see and meet. And dont cause yourself heartache,when you dont have to, but

whatever you choose to do bro take care and good luck.

 

P.s always wear a comdom, beats a life time of buying clothes food etc for a ankle snapper!

[escortmad79]

Walk away from her, sounds like too much hassle to me! Sounds like she maybe a little immature too

 

Women are complicated creatures, you'll learn

[mk3tina]

ahhh to be 16 ish again, im only 19 now but looking back it seems an absolute age away, truth be told, ive never been out of a 'relationship' for more than about 2 months since i was 15 ish, had a girlfriend that lasted 3 years from when i was 15 to 18, but looking back at it, as much as she was what i suppose you would call my 'first love' it really did kill my social life dead in its tracks, every night after college/work spent at her house, didnt see my mates for them 3 years, i dont feel bad about it and you dont forget that person ever, but i would have gone about things differently, at the end of the day what im trying to say is, dont bother trying to get seriously involved with girls, just try to have fun, someone will come along and this love malarky,itll hapen whenever it happens, and from then on your under the thumb.

[H.P.E harry]

You confused? i lost track after the first paragraph mate!!!

 

BUT, i notice you mentian at least 3 girls names so go for em all i say

 

Damn straight I read the first paragraph then read everyones replies to get the rest of the story. Mate honestly, dont go worrying yourself over her, she sounds like a messer anyway. Id go for the mum anyway, she has the experience If i had the chance i would have carried on sleeping with anything and everything before getting a girlfriend but its your choice at the end of the day

 

Also by saying anything and everything i meant strictly girls only!

[MEXY867M]

sorry mate,but plenty of other fish in the sea,your to young to be tied down,live your life first and make the most of it,then may be later when you find the right girl you may feel like settling down.CARS/BOOSE/SEX.

[mk3tina]

the advice from everyone on here seems to be along the lines of 'become a man whore' i dont really think thats a good reputation to have is it haha, you wouldnt go out with a girl who was branded a slag now would you.

[FredTransit]

My only advise is, if you are gonna sleep around, don't forget your condoms ......

[richie_stix]

trust me mate, the 'first love' seems like your only love... but when it's all over and the dust has settled you will probably realise it wasn't even true love!

 

i had a girlfriend of 5 months and i thought i loved her, she pushed all my mates away, rang me all the time (which i King hated, i like time to myself!) and my mates met up with me for a smoke, told me i should leave her, which i did... i cracked and we went out for two shitty more weeks before enough was enough! i realised i really didn't like her at all, especially the last 2 months of our relationship...

 

once we broke up she became a total dick, went out with a mate tryin to get back at me but i just laughed cos she was worse with him than me!

 

then i met my current missis who ive been goin out for 5 years now and i really love her, even when she pisses me off it will always work out! took me a good two years to really love her, thought that in about 6 months of relationship i did, bu they were just words!

 

been said already, at 16 you got a lot of your life left... and the time span you speak of is weeks, trust 'real' relationships will last longer!

 

get laid and work on a car, stops you thinkin bout it and you will be fine!

[richie_stix]

the advice from everyone on here seems to be along the lines of 'become a man whore' i dont really think thats a good reputation to have is it haha, you wouldnt go out with a girl who was branded a slag now would you.

 

no, but you might try and get with her if you had nothing better to do!

[H.P.E harry]

My only advise is, if you are gonna sleep around, don't forget your condoms ......

 

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